Most of you know that I was sexually abused as a child from the age 3-5 years old which set up a pattern in my life of attracting every form of abuse – until at age 50, I was able to understand what happened to me and eventually heal it. The #MeToo movement has highlighted how so many men subordinate women, or worse, in order to take their sexual pleasure. This would not be possible if a man’s sexuality was connected to his heart.
I remember the years and years I despaired of ever regaining my own natural, innate sexual response. The childhood abuse quickly entrained me to have no needs, that others’ needs were more important than my own, setting me up to go along with other people’s desires to my own detriment and further shame.
Even if you haven’t experienced abuse, unfortunately and contrary to what some of you would like to believe, you don’t come into this world naturally good at sex, or sexual relationships. Perhaps that might be a relief to those of you who have experienced sexual difficulties and feared that there is something wrong with you. I want you to know that it is not your fault since very few of you have received proper instruction in the sexual arts. Most of what you’ve learned about sex has come to you from extremely questionable sources (parents, religious leaders, pornography, the street and even, the marketplace).
So, if you have sexual problems, if you suffer from insecurity, vulnerability, performance anxiety, a lack of sexual desire, an inability to become aroused, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, or anything else, learning Conscious Sexuality will transform your life, and not just in the bedroom, but in every area of your life.
I’ve learned from Victor, that perhaps the most destructive male sexual myth is that “coming” is a man’s highest option in sex. Nothing could be further from the truth! Now is the time for the men on this planet to see their sexual behavior in a different light. Here’s why! A male genital release is a negative phenomenon. When men come, unlike women, they lose vital life force energy. Consider this: whatever fleeting pleasure men experience in sex lasts only until they come. The energy loss can be so profound that many men experience a post-ejaculation letdown that may include emotional withdrawal, irritability, moodiness, indifference, loss of erection, loss of sexual desire, and even an immediate loss of interest in your partner. Are these symptoms familiar to you? Did you think you had done something wrong? Has having sex ended with a fight or withdrawal?
The good news for men is that they can learn how to enjoy extended orgasms without ejaculating. You see, equating orgasm with ejaculation is a common mistake. They are actually two distinct physical processes and it’s important to learn how to separate one from the other. So, if you want to prolong your orgasm, you must avoid the trap of coming. A climax is a vastly overrated source of pleasure. It is not compatible with the highest states of sexual ecstasy, and that applies to women as well.
Are you willing to practice to become a better lover and use your sexual practice to raise your vibrational frequency, lifting you into higher states of consciousness?
Learning how to make love in this way with Victor has healed me physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Both men and women can learn the wisdom of channeling sexual energy into the heart to establish the heart-genital connection that defines the true nature of sexual love. Bringing the heart into the equation is a game-changer! Sex without love is one-dimensional. If there is only sex, no matter how intense coming may be, something is missing. Sooner or later, dissatisfaction will creep in since sex without love is just too limited to create a truly memorable experience.
It’s not too late to start over!
Victor’s new book will show you the way! Long Time Coming is available in print, or ebook, at: www.amazon.com/author/victorgold