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Are You in the Passenger Seat or the Driver’s Seat?

Summer has finally arrived; longer days, warm weather, with the outdoors calling to us.

The Fourth of July celebrations will be in full swing any day now, barbeques, family and fireworks. While the anticipation builds, the demands on an already full schedule may dim your enthusiasm somewhat.

It’s easy to go through this fast-paced world feeling as if you are being dragged through your weeks on the back of a wild horse. Our business obligations do not lessen as the summer activities are added to the mix.

Many of us go from one thing to another until we end up back at home in the evening with just enough time to wind down and go to sleep, waking up the next morning to begin the wild ride once more. While this can be exhilarating for certain periods of time, a life lived entirely in this fashion can be exhausting, and more importantly, it places us in the passenger’s seat when really we are the ones who should be driving. All the anticipation of the joy of summer gets lost when your energy is too low to enjoy it.

When we get caught up in our packed schedule and our many obligations, weeks can go by without doing one spontaneous thing or taking time to look at the bigger picture of our lives. Life begins to lose its meaning and feels like one ‘have-to-do’ after another; we run the risk of going through our precious days on a runaway train.

Taking time to view the bigger picture, asking ourselves if we are happy with the course we are on and making adjustments, puts us back in the driver’s seat where we belong. When was the last time you made space to answer the question, “what truly matters” at this point in your life and career? Taking the time to regularly check in with who you are now becomes very revealing.

Clients often begin to cry, as they realize how far away from their dreams they have gone or that they don’t know any more what truly matters to them personally. Many, many, years ago following a divorce I went to purchase living room furniture with great enthusiasm. After searching through a couple of stores, a very clear truth emerged: “I no longer knew what I liked.” Everything I saw that drew may attention was something that my ex-husband would have liked. I was shocked that I had lost so much of myself. I vowed then and there it would never happen again and that I would not buy one thing for my new home that I did not personally love! I live by that vow to this day. When we take responsibility for charting our own course in life, we may well go in an entirely different direction from the one laid out for us by society and familial expectations. This can be uncomfortable in the short term, but in the long term it is much worse to imagine living this precious life without ever taking the wheel and navigating our own course.

Of course, time spent examining the big picture could lead us to see that we are happy with the road we are on, but that we would like more time with family or more free time to do whatever we want to do in the moment. Even if we want more extreme changes, the way to begin is to get off the road for long enough to catch our breath and remember who we are and what we truly want. Once we do that, we can take the wheel with confidence, driving the speed we want to go in the direction that is right for us.

Ready for a road trip?

We would love to hear about what truly matters to you. Send an email to info@whattrulymatters.com!

Love and Blessings…

How’s Your Joy Level at Work?

Many of us see joy as the delightful result of being able to do work that we love. And this is certainly a great producer of joy on the job. Yet, those of us have not yet found the work we love or have a more challenging relationship with our work but still know an enhanced relationship with your work is possible.

Some of us are working in a job, while at the same time, building a business as a solo entrepreneur. All of the above scenarios require fortitude to go the distance following your heart and your dream. Whether you desire to be self-employed or to give your greatest level of contribution to the company you work for, it is important to realize the joy doesn’t just miraculously happen. As you all well know, one day can be fabulous and the next you wonder how you will get through to the end. Everyone has tasks that they enjoy doing and others that are mundane, yet necessary.

The real trick, however, is how to bring joy to anything you do. Doing so can transform the mundane into the enjoyable and let loose incredible energy for all you put your attention to. The secret is: creativity. Feeling creative and playful helps us move through resistance, fear, boredom and being disengaged on our way to an, “engaged satisfaction.”

Test your joy quotient with this Self-Quiz:  

(True/False)

  1. Creativity doesn’t just belong to artistic types living in loft studios. Work is a place I frequently exercise my creativity.
  2. I think of myself as someone who doesn’t just want what I want, but as someone who is going to get it. It’s just a matter of staying on track.
  3. I keep blank notebooks in several places for jotting down my ideas and inspirations, and recorder for recording observations.
  4. No matter how “uncreative,” sensible, logical I might consider myself to be, if I have a pressing idea—a core desire—I’m going to express it.
  5. My family, my company, my community, and my world all benefit when I access and use my innate creativity.
  6. Feeling vulnerable and insecure is part of the process of creating anything. To see me through those times, I call on those who I know support my project, not those who might discourage my efforts.
  7. I change the state of boredom when I need to by doing everyday things differently.
  8. I encourage laughter in my department/business throughout the day to lift the energy.
  9. I quiet my mind regularly, and when I do, creative ideas and inspirations often show up seemingly out of nowhere.
  10. I look around my world—city streets or nature’s paths—for creative inspiration and sources of joy.
  11. I anticipate unexpected twists of fate, chance encounters and unorthodox solutions.
  12. I make a regular habit of connecting with my wishes, and I’m not afraid to wish for too much. But rather than wish for personal success alone, I link my wishes to how they serve the greater whole.
  13. I use affirmations—positive statements phrased in the present tense and repeated often—to keep my joy level high.
  14. I make it a habit to do one scary thing to stretch myself every day.
  15. I laugh at myself—frequently.

If you answered “false” more often than “true,” you may be plugging up your joy channel, thereby creating unnecessary struggles.

Look back over you list and choose one or two items that you answered “false” to. Take a deep breath and check in; see which of them would be the best area to focus on right now. Write down an Inspired Action Step based on the area you chose, make it something you are really committed to. If you are “interested” you will do whatever is convenient, if you are “committed” you will do whatever it takes. Why bother with anything less than committed, right?

Please don’t hesitate to call if you would like help clearing any areas and reconnecting to your joy.

We would love to hear about what inspires your “creativity”. Send an email to info@whattrulymatters.com!

Love and Blessings…

Creativity is Calling You

The sound may be faint as the stirring of butterfly wings or as loud as a brass band on Fourth of July. Or you may not hear a sound at all, but feel an urging, an inner pull, a sense of excitement and longing that resonates from within. This is the call to create, and it is universal, bidding each of us to bring something new into being.

“Creativity is the Self searching for itself,” said George Gamez, Ph.D., author of How to Catch Lightning in a Bottle. We create in order to express our unique visions and perceptions. We create to communicate and to form a bond with our fellow human beings. Creative expression helps us feel connected to the world and builds bridges of understanding. It nourishes us and helps us grow, provides insights and deeper understandings. Creativity is fun, exciting and playful. It relieves stress and releases tension. It provides a way of communication when normal channels may be blocked or are insufficient — when we must speak in colors and textures and shimmering visions and music.

Creativity is love expressing itself; it heals and renews. Our creations are mirrors in which others may see themselves and the signature of our lives that says, “This is how I saw it.”

Everyone is Creative; yes, especially YOU!

No matter what you may have been told, every one of us is creative. It is as much a part of us as our voice and breath and fingerprints. Creativity isn’t just about making “art.” Cooking, gardening, handiwork and crafts, keeping a journal and spiritual practice are all creative acts. Arranging flowers or rearranging furniture, painting a picture or painting a room, singing or dancing on stage or singing in the shower—these are responses to the call.

Creativity is a way of living. It is being spontaneous and playful, exercising the imagination, finding solutions, and embracing possibilities and doing it all with passion. Creativity is the moment you are in the flow with yourself.

Yet for all the joy and fulfillment it brings, some resist the call to be creative. In our culture the ideas that, “Time is money” and, “Art is frivolous” hold a certain sway, and old messages such as, “Stay inside the lines” or, “You can do better than that” have remarkable staying power. It takes courage to look beneath the surface of what we’ve been told in order to find our heart’s desire.

Creativity requires risk-taking. It asks us to surrender, to lose control and to trust. “Committing to our creativity is an act of faith,” wrote Jan Phillips, in Marry Your Muse. “A promise to believe in ourselves.”

Honoring the creative “Self” means finding time, making space, being patient and taking the chance of looking foolish. You cannot care too much what others may think or say. You must be willing to start over and stay with it; creativity takes stamina. There are no magical secrets or absolute rules. Creativity can’t be taught. You just do it. “Creativity belongs to the artist in each of us,” said Corita Kent.

Like the body’s natural urge for motion and the human need for connection and community, the spirit longs to express itself. So when you hear the call to create, answer, “Yes.” It is yourself, searching for your “Self,” a movement toward being whole.

We would love to hear about what inspires your “creativity”. Send an email to info@whattrulymatters.com!

Love and Blessings…

Resistance, Surrender And Gratitude

If we look closely, most of us pride ourselves on our self-sufficiency. We like to be responsible for taking care of ourselves and pulling our own weight in the world. Building a business and offering exceptional service/experiences to our clients is at the forefront of our minds and actions. This is why it can be so challenging when we find ourselves in a situation in which we have to rely on someone else.

This can happen as the result of an illness, or, in my case, an injury, or even in the case of a positive change, a highly successful launch that grows your business to new heights. It could be the arrival of a long awaited love relationship or new child which requires a life reorganization to make time for what is now joyfully present. At times like these, it is essential that we let go of our feeling that we should be able to do it all by ourselves and instead, accept the help of others. I have said it before and will remind you again, “It is not a going it alone lifetime.”

resistance_surrender_gratitudeThe first step is accepting the situation fully as it is. Too often we make things worse either by trying to do more than we should or by lapsing into feelings of uselessness.

It is easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what you can’t do or the learning curve that can be overwhelming while adjusting to the new changes. We may miss a valuable opportunity to practice acceptance and humility. The ego resists what is, but when we move into acceptance we move into the deeper realm of the soul. In needing others and allowing them to help us, we experience the full realization that we are not on our own in the world. While this may bring up feelings of vulnerability, a deep feeling of gratitude may also emerge as we open to the experience of being helped. This realization can enable us to be wiser in our service of others when we are called upon to help. During the three months recovering from my broken foot, I have witnessed selfless service that touched me so deeply that the thought of it brings tears to my eyes. I have always been the person willing to help, I would do anything that was asked if I was able. I would contact the person and say, “Let me know what you need and I will be there,” and I meant it. If they did not call, I assumed they did not need anything, I realize the inaccuracy of that belief now.

Following my accident, I did not know what I needed, my best thinking was getting me nowhere; pain, trauma and medication can do that.

The loving earth angels took over in this manner:

  • “When is your next doctor’s appointment? I want to get it on my calendar now so that you can count on me to drive you.”
  • “I am bringing your groceries tomorrow night; email me a list.”
  • “I will pick up your laundry and return it to you tomorrow.”
  • “I would like to come by to visit on Sunday and will bring lunch.”
  • “I will drive you anywhere, at any time.”
  • “I will come on Saturday and pack your home for the move and assist with unpacking next week.”

Clients were willing to come to the cottage rather than office so I could rest in-between sessions. Now, believe me, I would not have come to that solution on my own; the voice in my head was saying, “I am a professional and I am not going to make it harder on my clients.” In the end, my clients loved the setting and were very happy to accommodate my needs.

It takes wisdom and strength to surrender to our own helplessness and to accept that we, just like every other human being, have limitations. The gifts of surrender are numerous, while the initial reaction is to resist surrendering at all costs. We discover humility, gratitude, and a deepening understanding of the human experience that enables us to be that much more compassionate and surrendered in the world. Deep surrender to our lives is a profound space of acceptance. We stop putting our filter of what we want onto life, and we fully accept what is.

Ask yourself where are you resisting the opportunity to surrender? When you are in resistance, you get tired, and so, you need rest. And so, you go from resistance to rest, to resistance to rest. There is another choice available to you: what about rest to eagerness, rest to passion, rest to alignment, rest to clarity, rest to brilliance? With this energy, you are living life as you intended; you are vital, happy, full and in alignment.

I have witnessed, month after month, at our live event Developing Alliances: Professional Gatherings for Extraordinary Women, that everyone loves to offer insights, guidance and support. Whether it is a personal question or business related – we all love to help others.

Will you make a commitment to grow yourself by serving others? Will you make a commitment to ask for help? Now is the time to end the journey of going it alone and soar with the love, caring and assistance of others.

Love and Blessings…

Some Days Ya Just Gotta Put on Your Boots and Dance Anyway…

As I celebrated my birthday in August of 2015, my astrology said to get ready for my best year ever… it is the year of Virgo! I was more than ready and very excited to see what would unfold. My desires included business growth, travel to spend time with family, more time at the ocean, connections with friends and meeting my beloved, just to name a few. I never brought the thought of a broken foot into my vision for my best year ever, and yet that is exactly what happened…

For the entire story here is the link to last month’s article.

In the 10 weeks following my fall, I have pondered how the two go together as the lessons continue to unfold:

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As I started feeling stronger, I also started feeling antsy. I wanted to do more, get out more, and yet, it was not possible. My days had to be balanced between output and rest. When my energy was gone it was totally gone as I had very little in reserve. At the end of the day going up that last stair step into my temporary home felt like a monumental feat. I learned to do what was absolutely necessary first, then to rank each task according to priority, giving myself permission to rest, when necessary.

Biz:

It is very tempting to have an idea and run full tilt with it, such as a program launch. Balance is equally important here. If what you are presenting is not well thought out, or you are running yourself ragged, in the end your product will not be well received. Balancing output with rest will serve you well.

Know What You Want

I wanted my car back!! Only my left foot was broken – so technically I was able to drive. Every time I spoke to my friends about getting my car back they nodded and said “Yes, soon.” I did not have any conviction that “soon” was in the near future. Finally, I asked, “What needs to be in place to get my car back”? I needed to be able to get up and down stairs safely without assistance, carry a purse and tote bag, if necessary, get in and out of the car on crutches and be able to store the crutches in the car. Next was navigating all the obstacles that could come up, gravel, uneven surfaces, rainy weather; the list goes on and on. Once I knew what was expected of me… I was on a mission. Each day I proved that I could do all of the items on the list. Within one week I had my car back. FREEDOM; oh, what a joy! Even if I did not go anywhere, I knew I could.

Biz:

Getting clarity on what you want is essential to begin the journey. You will course correct often (it is to be expected) yet, the clarity is absolutely necessary to achieve a positive outcome. Write down all of the areas so you know what you truly want, now go for it. Remember to celebrate each step of the way, this makes it much more fun in the long run.

One step forward and then…

There have been many milestones during this healing journey. One of them was having the cast removed and getting the walking boot after being non-weight bearing for 8 weeks. For me it turned out to be a hobbling boot for the first two weeks. Each day I was able to put slightly more pressure on the injured foot getting ready for the first real steps.  This is when the next hurdle showed itself. I was wearing a thick soled “sensible shoe” on my right foot for stability. If you know me at all, it is amazing I would own even one shoe that was called, “sensible” – I am strappy/sandal shoe kind of person; I digress. My walking boots sole was so thick that it threw off the alignment in my hips, low back pain was increasing daily. I was not about to invest in another sensible shoe (I only needed the right one after all!), yet, the back pain was unacceptable. Along came the inspired solution. I had the shoe maker add an additional ½ inch to the sole of my shoe. It took care of the pain immediately and I am now taking actual steps, soon to be without crutches!

Biz:

Be creative in your solutions. If you allow yourself to accept what you don’t want, you are settling for less. There is pain in business as well as life, and yes, you deserve more ease. Stay with it until you find a solution that supports your wellbeing and your business will prosper as well.

Blossom where you are planted

I have been blessed to be living in a dear friend’s guest cottage while my foot heals.  The panoramic view takes in many trees including majestic oaks, vineyards, pasture land with chickens and goats and one rooster. The silence, sunrises and sunsets are gifts I treasure every day. I have been watching the first buds on the trees, the birds building their nests and the cherry blossoms come into full magnificent bloom. I have also blossomed while I have been here, slowing to a snail’s pace has allowed me to be in sync with my surroundings. I have learned my home is wherever I am, I did not know that before.

Biz:

We are often focused on where we want to get to. We think we are the only ones who are not able to do all areas of the business with skill and ease. In our minds, we may copy, compete or compare, and we always end up feeling less than. Allow yourself to enjoy the journey and reap the rewards of the moment while you blossom into the fullness of who YOU are and what YOU have to offer.

Everything is nicer with a little sparkle

I have seen other people with nice small casts and reasonable walking boots, not me. With the size of this boot, all the way to the knee, you would think I had a broken leg rather than a broken foot. If I was going to be wearing this for weeks on end it needed to be fabulous. Once again, Cheri Olhiser offered her artistry to add sparkle. Every time I look at it I smile, and it makes other people smile too.

Biz:

Where can you add some sparkle or pizazz to your business. Your office may need some upgrading. Are you ready to change your hair, your wardrobe or get bold with nail color? When you sparkle you are more magnetic, go for it.

I would not have consciously chosen to break my foot; when do we really want the challenges that appear to throw us off track? And yet, all of this is contributing to my best year ever. I appreciate the seemingly small things in a new way. I desire connection and ways of being rather than things. I value the gift of being slowed down and the blossoming that is unfolding. I am filled with gratitude.

What is wanting to blossom in your life and business? I would love to hear from you.

Love and Blessings…

Is this Good Or Is This Bad?

“We have reviewed the x-rays and your foot is broken.”

I heard these words on the very day that I had begun my end-of-the-year time-off. I had envisioned walks on the beach, afternoon movies, while having open ended time to take a look back on 2015 and welcome in the guidance and inspiration for 2016. In one moment, my plans were no longer possible; now replaced with a temporary cast, crutches, along with mind and body dulling pain medication.

By midnight, following my visit to the emergency room, I was safely in my home; all my immediate needs within arms’ reach. My little dog, Bijou, was at Aimée’s home, no worries there. I had movies in the queue just in case the night ran on; this proved to be a very good choice.  It was quite a night!

The next morning, the gravity of the situation was evident. Remember the saying, “Life is what happens when you have other plans.” No, it was not life threatening and yet it was very life- alternating. Pondering how it could have been so much worse, helped for a moment, and yet the pain kept bringing me back to reality, as it was for me.

Comparing how others had it worse did not diminish that this was going to impact me for a while to come. Getting to the bathroom and back, attempting to find my balance on crutches, took all my energy.

My first opportunity was to say, “YES” to all the assistance that was offered. My best thinking at this time was not going to get me where I needed to be. I have a quality that is optimistic and positive and I wouldn’t change that for anything. I was fortunate to have friends lovingly point out that, just maybe, I was being a bit too optimistic. Here is an example: I had a doctor’s appointment set four days after the accident. My recollection from the conversation in the emergency room was that at that appointment the foot would be x-rayed and a permanent cast would be applied. My optimistic mind wove the story that I would have a walking cast and be mobile quickly. This intent was very important because I have 13 steps to my front door and without a walking cast I could not go up or down, this had already been proven.

When I saw the doctor, reality hit like a tidal wave. Not only did she not replace my cast, my vision of a walking cast was clearly out of the realm of possibility. Instead, I was instructed that I must be non- weight bearing on that foot for a minimum of 6-weeks; I know the color must have drained out of my face at that moment.

Two dear friends took me to dinner after that appointment sharing laughter and talking about many things other than my foot. Once we got me back home, no easy feat, it was obvious I could not stay here. I had just moved in 3 months earlier and had finally got it organized, time to let go of any attachments. 11 days after the accident, I moved out of my home to temporarily stay in a friend’s lovely country cottage, one of many blessings that were occurring.

I have learned many life lessons during this time, not surprisingly they also transfer over to business:

BE OPTIMISTIC AND ADD A TOUCH OF REALISM TO THE MIX

My optimism said I would need a couple of weeks to get stronger and then I could navigate on crutches and be driving. In truth, it will be around 7 weeks before that is possible.

Biz: Look at your task or project with optimism and create the best plan possible. Take some time away and come back with a fresh perspective, make any changes necessary to timelines and expectations; being realistic is going to support you in the long run.

A SMALL CHANGE CAN MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE

I was unstable on crutches and needed to have my cell phone with me at all times.

Remember the commercial, “Help I have fallen and can’t get up”?  Doing that once already resulted in my broken foot. I didn’t always have pockets, inevitably the phone would ring on the opposite side of the room, moving quickly was not an option.

Solution: I ordered short servers aprons with 4 pockets. I now have my cell phone, notebook, pen, and lip balm always within reach. I am going to continue using the apron at home when I return to a normal walking life – I love it!

Biz: Don’t allow yourself to be bogged down by annoyances and time wasters. The solution could be very simple and inexpensive. Let go of anything you are tolerating, it is an unnecessary energy drain.

ASK FOR HELP AND SAY “YES”WHEN IT IS OFFERED

For most of us asking for help can be a stretch, it was for me. I have needed help with just about everything. Rides, groceries, cooking, laundry, extended care for my little dog, picking up a knee scooter, returning the scooter for a wheelchair, picking up my mail, retrieving items I didn’t realize I would need from my home, a shoulder to cry on again and again, plus so much more. Now when someone asks, “What can I help you with,” – I tell her. If she is able to help she does and if it isn’t possible I ask the next person. From a seemingly small task to a much larger, I am deeply appreciative.

Biz: In business we often think asking for help is a sign of weakness or showing inadequacies. In truth it is just the opposite. No one can know everything, just by being curious about another’s point of view, and asking someone to assist creates collaboration. This is not a going it alone lifetime, we are meant to ask for help! Entrepreneurs love to share their knowledge and experience; this was evident at Developing Alliances: Professional Gathering for Extraordinary Women this past month, when we introduced a new networking process called, “Connecting The Dots.”  There were those who came looking for something and those who came wanting to share something.  Bingo!  Participants said they were blown away by the quality of the assistance they received.

IF WHAT YOU SEE BRINGS YOU DOWN, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT

I do not have a dainty small cast; nope it goes all the way up to the knee. I choose purple to represent the healing energy of Saint Germaine’s Violet Flame; in essence I surrounded that foot in high frequency healing energy. And yet, no matter how I looked at it, this was a huge bulky purple cast. When I was out, I received sad looks and comments of, “Oh I am so sorry” – not high frequency at all.

The solution was obvious, it was time add ‘bling’ and decorate the cast. My creative friend, Cheri Olhiser, was up to the task; here is the result —>

Now, when anyone, including me, looks at my cast, they light up with enthusiasm and exclaim, “That is the most beautiful cast I have ever seen!” and that make me happy, and happy energy is healing.

Biz: If your work environment is not what you would like change it. Move the furniture, remove your clutter, change the lighting, add inspirational quotes, bring in fresh flowers, the possibilities are endless.

Create an environment that you love being in and you will be more creative and maintain higher energy throughout your day, discover what makes you happy.  Looking at beauty strengthens your immune system!

WELCOME AN UNEXPECTED CHANGE IN PLANS

I have had to let go and let life unfold before me. I continually reflect on the wonderful experiences I have had due to my broken foot. The outpouring of love and support, connections I would not have had if I were leading life as usual. Slowing down to an absolute halt has given me the opportunity to reevaluate everything, and yes, I do mean everything! I made an intention at the beginning of this journey that I would come out of this stronger than when it began, and it is happening. Some of the changes have been in the back of mind for a while; no time like the present to begin.

Biz: We often get too rigid in our plans for future offerings, classes and programs. When you relax into what arrives, even if it appears to be an obstacle you make room for the magic and miracles to happen. Remember where this article began? “Life is what happens when you have other plans” – allow it to unfold.

THE JOURNEY CONTINUES…

I have discovered a new level of courage and determination, along with how to surrender to what is; that I am loved and supported more than I could have imagined and allowing others to support me brings them joy. I appreciate every moment, even when it is hard; I have everything I need to make it through. What stands out the most are the smiles, hugs, tender care, laughter and especially the LOVE that has been offered to me.

I invite you to open up to everything that is being offered in your life.

Love and Blessings…

The Road Ahead: What Will You Do Differently This Year?

Changing the way things are done can bring opportunities for greater success, but reaction to change may bring up fears, both obvious and subtle, that can result in a decrease in quality and a loss of production. When it comes to work and business, it can be tempting to give in to those anxieties by doing what’s always been done, you know, the comfort zone syndrome.

I recently moved to a new home and embraced that idea of not doing my day the same way I have in the past. Being in inquiry has proved to be very valuable: what is the outcome I desire? Am I giving myself the opportunity to achieve that outcome? What sets me up to be my best self in all areas? What brings me joy no matter what I am doing? And, priming the pump to have a better year always involves some form of adjustment to free up the time, money, mindsets and energy to tackle new opportunities.

Here are some areas to ponder to help you decide
 what changes are the most important ones to make?

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What personal and business tolerations interfered with personal and work progress? To tolerate is defined as, “To allow something, even if it is not your practice or something that you like.”  Tolerations are a good indication of issues that are calling for you to recognize and be shifted.
  • Were last year’s goals reached? Why or why not? When you recognize why and how you specifically achieved a goal you can then recreate the success. Often the issue with not achieving what you wanted is that the goals were not written down or if they were not reviewed regularly.  Setting new goals without having evaluated the previous year’s goals can result in a cycle of substandard results. Without beating yourself up how will you begin this year differently?
  • What fiscally responsible goal (making more money, collaborating, creating new products/services, improved marketing strategy, etc.) will also be fun? If you are not passionate and enjoying what you are doing/creating it will be evident in your work.
  • What do you need to change to have a better year?

  • Choose passion over profit. Connect to your bigger purpose in life, work and business and the rewards will flow effortlessly. Passionate people attract success and have a lot more enjoyment along the way.
  • Higher learning. Technology changes fast. Staying on top of what’s working now is only half the battle. Discovering what’s up and coming, and leveraging that knowledge, is the key to an exceptional year. If technology does not thrill you, hire someone to support you that love it. Technology is an avenue that can enhance the ease in running your business; let it work for you.
  • Celebrate success. Acknowledging and rewarding success keeps everyone motivated. Mark those mini-milestones with celebration and recognition every day! Also, make it a practice to share your successes with a trusted advisor regularly.
  • Add, don’t subtract. Your products and services will be consistently changing. When you notice a shift in what is being purchased, there is an opportunity to change. Instead of cutting prices, add value instead–bundle existing services/products, add bonuses or create new offerings.
  • What are your blind spots? Blind spots in the work and business environment can be harder to identify than those in your car. Find a trusted advisor/coach to help you identify your blind spots. This can be a very liberating experience.
  • Ask around. Getting honest feedback from clients, customers and service providers is invaluable. Your greatest opportunities and growth can come from soliciting well-intentioned feedback. Sometimes what needs to change is missed because it is so “obvious.”

The New Year is the traditional starting place for setting goals and revaluating, and yet, it is only one option. Everyday provides an opportunity to start over, leaving behind that which did not meet your expectations while meeting the new day fresh.

I know without a doubt that you have tremendous gifts and talents that are waiting to be realized and expressed. If you do not bring them forth everyone loses. Your work/business provides an avenue for the deepest amount of growth and self-expression. Will you say, “YES, I AM ALL IN” throughout 2016?

Success is determined by both the small and large accomplishments all linked together: don’t wait another moment!

Love and Blessings…

Making Time for Self-Reflection

December is upon us, ushering in the end of 2015; isn’t it amazing how fast the time has gone?

This is the perfect time for completions, an essential component to align your energies for the New Year. I hear you groan, “How can I add one more thing with everything I already have ahead of me to make it through the holidays and this year?”

Just for a moment contemplate what it would be like to survive this month, but to actually, thrive and enjoy it fully?

With the tendency to add more to-do’s and pressure to your life it is more important than ever to slow down and connect within. If you are overextending yourself and just getting through the days you will miss the opportunity for reflection. How you began the year was important and how you end it is just as important.

The past year has provided many challenges; no one has been immune; we have experienced energies that have never before been present. Each day became an adventure in learning how to navigate new territory. Along with the challenges came miracles and breakthroughs in relationships, heart-openings, business and every area of life; capturing these moments will show you the richness of this year’s journey.

You know where you started, here are a number of questions for you to consider as you move toward the finish line of 2015. You may decide to walk with one question at a time, jot down insights that come up during the day allowing your inner guidance to direct you. Or, block out some quiet uninterrupted time to deeply reflect. Add any of your own questions that are calling to be answered:

  1. What specific results have you achieved so far this year?

  2. Are you healthier, wealthier, and wiser? Describe in detail.

  3. Are you making progress towards your life’s vision or just holding ground?

  4. What results are you committed to achieve by the end of the year?

  5. How have you grown and what have you learned this year?

  6. Is there any unfinished business that needs to be tended to in your life?

  7. Are you actively pursuing what truly matters on a daily basis? If not, what is important at this time?

  8. What habits do you need to change to ensure better results?

  9. What is the key issue that inhibits your ability to perform at your best?

I suggest you give yourself the time to answer and honor these questions, because when it comes to the last days of the year, everyday and everything you do counts.

Blessings and love…

Here Come the Holidays: Ready or Not!

I am so happy now that I have been around long enough to see the payoff of gaining some wisdom.

Yes, I claim that I carry wisdom and tons of it, although in the past that wisdom often went out the window when I was with family, especially during the holidays.

Oh, you know how it goes; you start out really great, so happy to see each other, happy to be connecting again, and then the old habits and judgments start leaking in. You remember how you have always been irritated with this behavior and that behavior; you would think there had been enough years that have gone by that you each would have evolved a bit! So how do you relate lovingly in spite of it all?

The saying, “Words are cheap, action speaks,” is never more true than when applied to family situations and sharing your love. Whether interacting with a romantic partner, your children or other family members, if the actions aren’t there to back up the loving words, it all means nothing. Below are 10 of the best ways to say, “I love you” in your actions. But there are thousands more. See how creative you can get in coming up with your own ideas.

  1. Greet your loved ones with a big smile, a hug and a kiss.
  2. Really listen to what your loved ones are saying; give them your undivided and undistracted attention (turn off the cell phone!).
  3. Spend time doing some things they enjoy, you may find you enjoy them also.
  4. Do simple (even random) acts of kindness, such as massaging shoulders or feet, cooking a favorite meal, running a bath.
  5. Spend one-on-one time with your loved ones, with no particular agenda.
  6. Commit to truly accepting each other’s faults and quirks.
  7. Be kind and respectful no matter what you are sharing, always preserving another’s self-esteem (as well as your own).
  8. Be impeccable with your word. If you say you’ll do something, do it, and within the timeframe that you said you’d do it.
  9. Take responsibility for your part in any conflict, and then look at how you can do better next time. Step out of the blame game.
  10. Share yourself and what lives deeply inside of you. This is a precious gift and conveys trust and security.

During my recent trip to visit family #10 played a big role.

I have always been seen as different in my family, not less than, and yet very different. Over the years, I was not fully myself, attempting to smooth the waters and fit in, but not this time. I showed up fully being myself, and guess what…I was acknowledged, appreciated and valued. Yes, we have all changed over the years and yet what made the change possible is that “I” made the decision to show up differently, I decided to let my light shine, share my insights, ideas and opinions and let their reaction be fine, whatever that reaction was. Much to my delight, the reaction I received was very positive.

I also decided to be very curious about each of them. I committed to engage deeply with each person, expressing curiosity about their interests, even when they were foreign to me; after all, isn’t that what I wanted to receive?  I enjoyed experiencing each person’s passion.  I noticed them lighting up as they shared it with me.

As you enter into this holiday season, spending time with family, friends, colleagues and loved ones, I invite you let your past stories fall away and step into each moment, be more present. and allow your true light and love to shine through.

Share your experiences and insights at info@whattrulymatters.com we would love to hear from you!

Blessings and love…

Why Success Doesn’t Automatically Bring Fulfillment

Are you a professional who realizes that the success you have worked so hard to achieve has not brought you the fulfillment it promised?

When you focus on success in one arena, it usually means you are paying a price in other areas of your life.

Let me use an example, one that’s very familiar to many of you reading this article.

What price are you paying for your success?

How many of you feel that you give the best of yourself to your work and the worst of yourself to your loved ones?  I know that I used to do just that!   Get up at the crack of dawn to go to the office and burn the midnight oil trying to get everything done – a losing battle, for sure.   Exhausted, I had nothing left in the tank for my relationship and not surprisingly it failed!  And the next one, and the next one! Until one day, it hit me – I had put on about 30 lbs, was dragging myself out of bed every day – it didn’t matter how much money I was making, I never had anytime to enjoy it or anyone special to spend it with!

Are you constantly shortchanging yourself?

Do you feel like you’re trying to fit your life in around your work and realize that you are constantly shortchanging yourself?  When we ask our clients what truly matters to them, most married people agree that it’s their family, their spouses and their kids.  It’s the reason they are working so hard.  And yet, if we ask the spouses and kids, their biggest complaint is lack of quality time with our client!

Most of our clients also agree that relationship intimacy is what truly matters and yet it’s the area that typically suffers the most!  Being chained to your PDA, like an umbilical cord, doesn’t create a lot of room for intimacy and neither does repeatedly getting home from work exhausted – right?

Others quote their health as what truly matters and yet invest no time or energy in eating well, exercising and getting enough rest.  But they do tell themselves that someday they will join a gym, or go to the one they pay dues to! Or someday, they will lose the extra pounds that creep on every year.  In one of the Fortune 500 companies I used to work for, it was 10 lbs a year!  Unfortunately, someday is not a day of the week!

Where is the gap?

What is in the gap between success and fulfillment for you, and between what you say is important versus what you do about it?  Do one thing differently to close that gap now.

I could go on, but you get the point!  Fulfillment comes from knowing what’s most important to you, and making sure that you invest enough of your energy in the right places to get a positive return on your investment.

If this article stirred a response in you, we’d love to hear your thoughts at info@whattrulymatters.com

Be well,

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