Summer has finally arrived; longer days, warm weather, with the outdoors calling to us.
The Fourth of July celebrations will be in full swing any day now, barbeques, family and fireworks. While the anticipation builds, the demands on an already full schedule may dim your enthusiasm somewhat.
It’s easy to go through this fast-paced world feeling as if you are being dragged through your weeks on the back of a wild horse. Our business obligations do not lessen as the summer activities are added to the mix.
Many of us go from one thing to another until we end up back at home in the evening with just enough time to wind down and go to sleep, waking up the next morning to begin the wild ride once more. While this can be exhilarating for certain periods of time, a life lived entirely in this fashion can be exhausting, and more importantly, it places us in the passenger’s seat when really we are the ones who should be driving. All the anticipation of the joy of summer gets lost when your energy is too low to enjoy it.
When we get caught up in our packed schedule and our many obligations, weeks can go by without doing one spontaneous thing or taking time to look at the bigger picture of our lives. Life begins to lose its meaning and feels like one ‘have-to-do’ after another; we run the risk of going through our precious days on a runaway train.
Taking time to view the bigger picture, asking ourselves if we are happy with the course we are on and making adjustments, puts us back in the driver’s seat where we belong. When was the last time you made space to answer the question, “what truly matters” at this point in your life and career? Taking the time to regularly check in with who you are now becomes very revealing.
Clients often begin to cry, as they realize how far away from their dreams they have gone or that they don’t know any more what truly matters to them personally. Many, many, years ago following a divorce I went to purchase living room furniture with great enthusiasm. After searching through a couple of stores, a very clear truth emerged: “I no longer knew what I liked.” Everything I saw that drew may attention was something that my ex-husband would have liked. I was shocked that I had lost so much of myself. I vowed then and there it would never happen again and that I would not buy one thing for my new home that I did not personally love! I live by that vow to this day. When we take responsibility for charting our own course in life, we may well go in an entirely different direction from the one laid out for us by society and familial expectations. This can be uncomfortable in the short term, but in the long term it is much worse to imagine living this precious life without ever taking the wheel and navigating our own course.
Of course, time spent examining the big picture could lead us to see that we are happy with the road we are on, but that we would like more time with family or more free time to do whatever we want to do in the moment. Even if we want more extreme changes, the way to begin is to get off the road for long enough to catch our breath and remember who we are and what we truly want. Once we do that, we can take the wheel with confidence, driving the speed we want to go in the direction that is right for us.
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