Are You Too Busy?

Time is the great equalizer. Everybody gets the same amount: 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour. We can’t save time or accumulate or rearrange it. We can’t turn it off or on. It can’t be replaced.

But these days, it seems as if the lament of not having enough time has become a national anthem. Everywhere people find themselves constantly in a rush, over-booked and over-scheduled with no time off. Life is accompanied by the ongoing stress of not enough time. And sometimes doing too much and being too busy can be a way of numbing feelings or disguising depression or anger.

Though it may not always seem so, how we fill our time and how we spend it is our choice. Do you realize that by choosing “busy” you will always be trying to catch up, or stay just ahead of the impending doom that seem to be lurking very closely.

In truth, many of us would rather remain over scheduled, underproductive, running from shiny object to shiny object, than to pause and take a look at what is really going on and what you are really feeling.

I invite you to stop right now and answer the following questions to discover if you’re caught up in the “too-busy” cycle. Until you really see your own behaviors clearly you will not be able to make any changes. Now think about it, “if you are not willing to do this step you are actually choosing to stay exactly where you are” –  is that really what you want?

Take a deep breath and center yourself, and begin...


I constantly find myself doing “urgent” things and trying to catch up.
I allow myself to drift into obligations when I don’t know how much time or energy they’ll require, which results in over committing.
I find myself running from when I get up in the morning until I go to bed at night. I’m always tired and never feel like I accomplished enough.
I seldom schedule a day off for myself and when I do, I tend to fill it with activities: I don’t seem to know how to relax anymore.
I don’t make time for “self-care” activities: physical exercise, nurturing or “pampering” myself, cultural stimulation, spiritual well-being, learning something new, playing, or simply doing nothing.
I seldom have time to do the things I really love.
My work and project areas are cluttered with, “I’ll look at this later” stacks and “to-do” piles; procrastination has become a way of life.
I often miscalculate how long certain activities will take, creating more stress as the hours fly by.
I often miss deadlines or work long hours scrambling to meet a deadline.
I respond to interruptions such as phone calls, faxes, email, beepers and pagers, and allow them to take me off track; I am distracted often!
I try to keep things in my head rather than making lists; If I do make a daily “to-do” list, it’s impossible to complete in a day, this contributes to my overwhelm.
I tend to move from one urgent thing to the next, rather than working toward specific goals and objectives.
I find myself constantly wishing I had more time or projecting an imaginary future when I have more time, making comments such as, “as soon as…” or, “next year…”
I spend time running errands and rushing because I didn’t plan well enough.
I spend time doing things I could pay someone else to do.
Other people complain that my schedule doesn’t allow enough time for them.

What did you discover? Did you find that you are actually doing much better than you realized or have done in the past? Did you notice a pattern that shows you the outcomes you are creating due to your choices? Awareness is the first step in making lasting changes; seriously, how can you change something you cannot see?

You may be asking, “what next?” How do I shift to a healthier way of conducting my business and my life?

The first step is to begin small by taking “baby steps.” Too often we terrorize ourselves for all the things we are doing that are out of alignment, and then we terrorize ourselves with a list of all the changes we are going to make immediately. Most exercise programs fail in the first week; we set ourselves up to fail. It is very common for a new exerciser to pledge to go from 0 exercise to 45 minutes a day, four times a week.  it is not going to happen!

Look back over your list and pick 2 areas that really stand out for you as uncomfortable. Please resist the urge to choose 4 or more as you will be setting yourself up to fail.

At our Developing Alliances live event this week one of our participants shared how she manages to have time for herself on a regular basis. First, she looks at her calendar for the week/month and blocks out chunks of time for herself, a couple of hours, ½ day or full day. This is non-negotiable time that cannot be bumped. She has also created a “Joy List.” One list is free things that promote joy and the other list costs money. Some no cost examples are: a walk on the beach, attending the farmers market, free concerts in the park, wandering through a bookstore.

The payment list includes massage, concerts, dining out, an overnight getaway, manicure and pedicure – you get the picture. This is brilliant and I invite you to create your lists now, not only will it help you to plan your time it will show you what is important to you now.

You may discover that something that you do as a habit is actually very important. One thing that makes me extremely happy and costs very little is getting my car washed. I love looking at it all shiny, driving with crystal clear, clean windows. I feel uplifted every time I get into it. I keep this on my schedule as a necessity for my wellbeing.

My wish for you is that you have a life that is fulfilling rather than busy, it is only a choice away.

I would enjoy hearing from you, what are you choosing?

Love and Blessings,


Build Your Business with the Seasons

Mother Nature certainly likes her routine. Global warming aside, she cycles through the same processes, in the same order, doing things the same way they always have worked.

Within that cycle, of course, variations exist—a dry winter or a mild fall—but we always can rely on the rhythm. One season follows the other. It’s a comfortable predictability in a world that often seems to be wildly unpredictable.

Luckily, it is possible to tap into that natural cycle, to bring into our professional lives a greater sense of flow and order.

As you read the suggestions below, keep in mind that we all have our own rhythms as well. What works for one person or business might not work for another. Take the ideas as ways to get you thinking. If a particular suggestion doesn’t work for you, is there another seasonally inspired activity that might?

Presently the energies are turning towards fall as summer activities are winding down. You may be already noticing the subtle changes to the leaves on the trees; the next level of change is inevitable. Begin making your plans to support your business with the energies that are available now.


The fall offers us golden rich colors and crisp, cool air. There’s a feeling of transition and that “back to school” energy we never outgrow. The harvest of fruit and vegetables is in full swing as our energies begin slowing a bit from the activities of summer.

A few business activities for fall:

  • Harvest the bounty of your good work, by fulfilling orders for your new products and services and collecting feedback from your customers and clients.
  • Prepare for the winter and the end of the year by compiling your records.
  • Consider your own harvest. Are you satisfied with its size and quality? What might you do to improve it for next year?


Winter brings frigid air, frosted glass and, in some areas, a white blanket of snow. Many plants and some animals slip into hibernation and get ready for their springtime rebirth. Wintertime sports and holidays bring a new energy to our days and nights. With shorter days ahead, it is a time to go inward and reflect.

Here are a few business activities that align with winter:

  • While you’re hunkered down indoors, take some time to analyze your year-end numbers—what do they tell you about the choices you made this year? What could you improve? What did you do well?
  • You won’t be hibernating forever, so set your goals for the following year—what would you like your numbers to look like next winter and how will you make that happen?
  • Consider what is “hibernating” in your work or personal life. Is it almost the time for a dormant phase to end?


In spring, everything is glistening, green and new. There is a feeling of expansion, birth or rebirth. There’s a sense of renewal and reawakening. Seeds start to grow. In springtime, people start to get outside more, becoming reacquainted with their gardens. We take on spring-cleaning projects and clear out clutter.

A few business activities that align with spring:

  • Plant your own seeds by designing one or two new products or services for your business. Give yourself lots of time for brainstorming and collaboration before honing your ideas.
  • When you’re ready, create a detailed launch plan with action steps and a timeline.
  • Ask yourself what other seeds you would like to sow—and what others already are starting to sprout.


In summer, the landscape is lush and colorful with fruits and flowers. The air is warm and growth is everywhere. Summertime lends opportunities for family adventures and exploring. Long days lend a feeling of abundance.

A few business activities for summer:

  • Use the longer days to tweak your systems and work out any bumps or bugs in your implementation process.
  • If the timing is right for your business, launch your new services or products.
  • Complete other projects so that you can reap their rewards. Put finishing touches on work you’ve been doing.
  • Think about what you’re about to harvest. Are you ready for it? What else can you do to support your own abundance?

By tailoring some of what you do to the natural rhythms that allow, sustain and renew all life on earth, you might just find that your business is likewise supported, as it grows and prospers. The seasons remind us that change is always happening. Expect change and even welcome it into your life and business, after all, it is your offering to the world; let yourself shine brightly.

I would like to hear what you are creating, send an email to

Love and Blessings,

How’s Your Joy Level at Work?

Many of us see joy as the delightful result of being able to do work that we love. And this is certainly a great producer of joy on the job. Yet, those of us have not yet found the work we love or have a more challenging relationship with our work but still know an enhanced relationship with your work is possible.

Some of us are working in a job, while at the same time, building a business as a solo entrepreneur. All of the above scenarios require fortitude to go the distance following your heart and your dream. Whether you desire to be self-employed or to give your greatest level of contribution to the company you work for, it is important to realize the joy doesn’t just miraculously happen. As you all well know, one day can be fabulous and the next you wonder how you will get through to the end. Everyone has tasks that they enjoy doing and others that are mundane, yet necessary.

The real trick, however, is how to bring joy to anything you do. Doing so can transform the mundane into the enjoyable and let loose incredible energy for all you put your attention to. The secret is: creativity. Feeling creative and playful helps us move through resistance, fear, boredom and being disengaged on our way to an, “engaged satisfaction.”

Test your joy quotient with this Self-Quiz:


  1. Creativity doesn’t just belong to artistic types living in loft studios. Work is a place I frequently exercise my creativity.
  2. I think of myself as someone who doesn’t just want what I want, but as someone who is going to get it. It’s just a matter of staying on track.
  3. I keep blank notebooks in several places for jotting down my ideas and inspirations, and recorder for recording observations.
  4. No matter how “uncreative,” sensible, logical I might consider myself to be, if I have a pressing idea—a core desire—I’m going to express it.
  5. My family, my company, my community, and my world all benefit when I access and use my innate creativity.
  6. Feeling vulnerable and insecure is part of the process of creating anything. To see me through those times, I call on those who I know support my project, not those who might discourage my efforts.
  7. I change the state of boredom when I need to by doing everyday things differently.
  8. I encourage laughter in my department/business throughout the day to lift the energy.
  9. I quiet my mind regularly, and when I do, creative ideas and inspirations often show up seemingly out of nowhere.
  10. I look around my world—city streets or nature’s paths—for creative inspiration and sources of joy.
  11. I anticipate unexpected twists of fate, chance encounters and unorthodox solutions.
  12. I make a regular habit of connecting with my wishes, and I’m not afraid to wish for too much. But rather than wish for personal success alone, I link my wishes to how they serve the greater whole.
  13. I use affirmations—positive statements phrased in the present tense and repeated often—to keep my joy level high.
  14. I make it a habit to do one scary thing to stretch myself every day.
  15. I laugh at myself—frequently.

If you answered “false” more often than “true,” you may be plugging up your joy channel, thereby creating unnecessary struggles.

Look back over you list and choose one or two items that you answered “false” to.

Take a deep breath and check in; see which of them would be the best area to focus on right now. Write down an Inspired Action Step based on the area you chose, make it something you are really committed to. If you are “interested” you will do whatever is convenient, if you are “committed” you will do whatever it takes. Why bother with anything less than committed, right?

Please don’t hesitate to call if you would like help clearing any areas and reconnecting to your joy. And, I would love to hear what resonated with you from this article, let’s begin a dialogue. Email me at

Love and Blessings,

Top 10 Best Email Habits

Summer has arrived!

Longer days and lighter clothing, barbeques, outdoor music and dancing, special time with family and fireworks are the order of the day. Like many, you have good intentions to do this summer differently, making time for what really matters to you – right?

Each day you start out full steam ahead, promising that you will leave work on time with energy left over for the evening. For many of you even with the best of intentions you rarely meet this desire, so much is tugging at you to complete each day.

One area that is consistently an energy drain is email, the neverending in-box, which seems to fill up as quickly as it gets emptied, if it ever gets emptied.

I feel this one every day and decided it was time to tame the dragon. Improving your email habits can drastically increase your productivity.

Like any new approach, these take focus and practice.

But after awhile, they will become habits that support you.

  1. Check email only at scheduled times for a specified amount of time. Twice a day for 30-60 minutes works well for many. Unplug until the next scheduled time.
  2. Unsubscribe relentlessly. Make sure you receive only the things you really want to—and do—read. If you have trepidation about letting something go, write down the company name in a file, for easy access later. If you really miss it re-subscribe.
  3. Reduce the amount of routed email (i.e., cc’d from coworkers) to only that which is essential.
  4. “Slash and burn” on your first pass through your inbox, this makes a big difference. Use the second pass for replies and other follow-up actions.
  5. Empty your inbox every day and keep it that way. Delete most and file the rest.
  6. Include all of your contact information in your signature—phone, fax, website—so that others don’t have to hunt for this information.
  7. One topic, one subject. Change the subject line when conversation turns to another topic, and break up multiple topics into separate emails for easy filing and recall.
  8. Count to ten before clicking “Send.” Make sure your email is clear and represents what you really want to say to avoid a lot of back-and-forth later.
  9. Include in your replies the original context of the email so you (and others) don’t have to hunt for it later.
  10. Resist the temptation to check your email more than your scheduled times! It’s a simple step but has a profound effect on productivity.

Look back over this list to see what stands out to you. Set yourself up for success by choosing 1-2 areas to focus to begin with. Once you have mastered those choose 1-2 more.

Congratulations, you are on your way to taming the email dragon and having more time to live the life that truly matters.

I would love to hear what resonated with you from this article, let’s begin a dialogue. Email me at

Love and Blessings,

When Life Presents The Big Questions

I have been on quite a journey since the beginning of the year.

To be honest, I asked for it…

Have you heard the saying, “Beware of what you ask for – you just might get it”?  I think you know where this is going, don’t you?

I had been feeling a deep sense of unrest for a few months, a yearning for something more and yet not sure what I was yearning for. After wrestling with it month after month, I realized I was experiencing a need to deepen my spiritual practice; I wanted to know my soul more intimately.

You may be asking yourself, “What does that mean?” I was asking myself the same thing.

I walked with the question for many weeks and was not any closer to an answer than I had been at the beginning. What I did begin to notice was the falling away of old patterns and daily habits that had been very supportive for me over the years.

I began my day as I had for many years with heart Centered Grounding and Centering, spiritual reading and contemplation, prayer, and stillness. I would choose an intention for the day as my touchstone. Imagine my surprise when I reached for these tools and found I felt flat!

Even though the grounding and centering continued to keep me connected, and my energy field protected, which is so very important, I realized I wanted more, although I was still not sure where to turn. I finally relaxed into being with whatever was present. In the morning I would ground and center and find myself staring out the window for an hour.

Each day it was slightly different, without any of the structure I had in the past. I did not feel lost as much as I felt I was in a void.

Two opportunities showed up that addressed this deep yearning to know my soul. The first one was a 9-week course with Neale Donald Walsch, titled, Living From Your Soul. I laughed out loud when the email arrived in my in-box. The second was a weekend with Pema Chodron and Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche at the Being Brave 3-day retreat, held in Pt. Richmond CA. I was not actively looking for either of these, yet they arrived at the perfect time

Finally, the void became a very rich place to be as I played with “what if?”

“What if I just relax into this?” “What if I have everything I need?” “What if I designed something new for the beginning of my day and the end of my day?”

“What if I drew from the wealth of knowing I already had within without needing inspiration from other sources for this present time?” “What if…?”

I began a morning and evening experiment…

In the morning:

  • State out loud how I wanted to show up in this day, focused, happy, engaged, inspired, grateful, connected, etc.
  • Write down my area of focus and look at it often to keep me on track
  • Allow myself to be with whatever arose during my morning time, it was just fine if each day was different from the one before and unstructured.

In the evening, I had an end of the day review:

  • Did I accomplish what I wanted to do?
  • Is there something I would have liked to do differently?
  • Could I have made better supportive choices in my day with food, judgments, exercise, etc?

I became more regular with my journaling as the changes were often subtle.

What I have noticed is that:

  • I am much more in the flow of life.
  • I am happier and more peace filled thorough out the day.
  • I bring more laughter and playfulness to everything I do.
  • My creativity has been enhanced.
  • My inner guidance and soul are informing me continually if I am in alignment or not.
  • I am choosing to let go and flow with whatever is showing up. It is not always comfortable yet it is always worth it.

I would love to hear what resonated with you from this article, let’s begin a dialogue.

Email me at

Love and Blessings,

Bounce Back: Developing Emotional Resilience

Major disruptions are a “gotcha” we all experience at one time or another in our lives. We get fired, laid off or passed over; a loved one dies, leaves or gets in trouble; a project stalls or gets cancelled. Often the “gotcha” is a disappointment when life takes an unexpected turn. The list, unfortunately, is endless.

In our current times you would be hard pressed to find anyone that is not experiencing some very challenging situations in their life or the lives of those close to them. We are deeply impacted when those we love are going through difficult times, and it is important to acknowledge that impact.

A far more subtle form of “gotcha” can be the process of our growth.  Over the past months I have felt stretched and pulled to grow in my life and business, it has been very uncomfortable, with a lot of uncertainty throughout and yet I welcome it. Now let’s be clear, welcoming these energies does not make it any easier, it allows me to become a partner in the process which removes layers of resistance, yet is still carries the same energy of disruption.

For some, the impact of these hard times is overwhelming. Recovery, if it comes at all, can be painfully slow. Others show admirable resilience and are able to glide through these times fairly easily, bouncing back to a normal life again quickly. Resilience—the strength required in adapting to change—acts as our internal compass so we can resourcefully navigate an upset.

When unexpected events turn life upside down, it’s the degree to which our resiliency comes into play that makes these “make-or-break” situations opportunities for growth. The good news is that each of us has the capacity to reorganize our life after a disruption and to achieve new levels of strength and meaningfulness. Though it’s easy to feel vulnerable in the midst of chaos and uncertainty, disruptions are not necessarily a bad thing because they help us grow and meet future challenges in our lives. It’s a lot like a bone that was once fragile or broken, and is now strong from being used or strong at the formerly broken places.

So how can you become more resilient? Here’s a look at seven key characteristics of people who demonstrate resilience during life’s curve balls.

A Sense of Hope and Trust in the World

Resilient people rely on their belief in the basic goodness of the world and trust that things will turn out all right in the end. This positive attitude allows them to weather times when everything seems bleak and to look for and accept the support that is out there. This approach toward the world gives them the ability to hope for a better future.

Interpreting Experiences in a New Light

The ability to look at a situation in a new way (a skill called “reframing”) can minimize the impact of a difficult situation. Resilient people take a creative approach toward solving a problem, and don’t always use an old definition for a new challenge.

A Meaningful System of Support

One of the best ways to endure a crisis is to have the support of another person who can listen and validate your feelings. Knowing that others care and will come to our support decreases the feeling of isolation, especially when tackling a problem alone. It’s important to choose people you trust. Don’t be surprised if it takes several friends, who each can provide different kinds of support. Resilient people aren’t stoic loners. They know the value of expressing their fears and frustrations, as well as receiving support, coaching or guidance from friends, family or a professional.

A Sense of Mastery and Control Over Your Destiny

You may not be able to predict the future, but you can tackle a problem instead of feeling at the mercy of forces outside of your control. Resilient people know that ultimately their survival and the integrity of their life values depend on their ability to take action rather than remain passive. Tough times call for you to tap into your own sense of personal responsibility.

Self-Reflection and Insight

Life’s experiences provide fertile ground for learning. Asking yourself questions that invite introspection can open a door to new understanding and appreciation of who you are and what you stand for. Giving voice to your thoughts and feelings leads to insight and helps transform the meaning of a problem into something useful. Resilient people learn from life situations and do not succumb to punishing themselves because of decisions made in the past.

A Wide Range of Interests

People who show resilience in the face of adversity are those who have a diversity of interests. They’re open to new experiences and ideas. Because their lives are rich and varied, it’s easier for them to find relief from the single mindedness and worry that often accompany a crisis.

Sense of Humor

Have you ever had a wry laugh during a difficult situation? The ability to see the absurdity, irony, or genuine humor in a situation stimulates our sense of hope and possibility. Humor has both psychological and physical benefits in relieving stress because it encourages a swift change in your perception of your circumstances—and when your thoughts change, your mood follows.

Which of the seven areas stands out to you the most? Begin there and then move on to the next. Improving these seven areas now—rather than waiting for adversity to pay a visit—will allow you to bounce back more quickly.

Resiliency is a necessary quality to carry forth through the uncertain times you are experiencing now.  as well as those you can be sure will show up in the future. If you need help navigating any challenges we are just a phone call or email away, we would love to hear from you.

Love and Blessings,

How to Interrupt Negative Patterns

Every day we all feel the pace of life picking up and moving faster and faster; this has become the new normal.  Peace lies in your ability to accept it rather than struggle with it, sometimes easier said than done. The truth is we all experience less desirable/unfavorable situations throughout the days or weeks. Some of these situations are out of your control while some of them are part of your own patterns, and that pattern can be changed. Now isn’t that good news?

When unfavorable situations, actions and emotional conflicts happen again and again in your life—same scene, different characters—there’s a good chance you are in the presence of a negative “pattern.”

Some examples: picking the wrong lovers/partners, conflict with co-workers, being chronically debt ridden, people pleasing, over-giving and a recurring lack of self-care.

At best, these negative patterns cause frustration. At worst, they cause undue suffering, uphill struggle, and sometimes, even disease.

The good news is that you have the power to change these negative patterns. Below are some ways to begin to disrupt them so that you can start laying down new, more positive patterns.

Become aware.

The act of noticing begins the shift away from damaging thoughts or behaviors, no matter how entrenched a pattern seems.  Put simply, you can’t change what you’re not aware of.

One way to become aware is to just sit with your thoughts and watch for the patterns. The goal here is to notice, that’s all.

In this step, focus your awareness on just the facts and feelings of the patterns. Don’t let your mind wander into the analysis of “why” you have them right now, for you will likely try to justify and defend the pattern. You may begin to blame others for this pattern and that will only keep you entrenched in the behavior. You can analyze later (see below); for now, just notice.

Also, ask people you trust to help you see the patterns. (Only talk to your nearest and dearest who will support you without adding any negativity.) Our blind spots are called “blind” for a reason; we just don’t see them. But they’ll be clear as day to others.

Discover the hidden payoff.

Becoming aware of your negative patterns, you see evidence they are disserving, perhaps even damaging, you. For example, if your pattern of conflict with co-workers has made you change jobs a number of times, your resume now reflects that pattern too.

The key to interrupting negative patterns is to understand this: we generally don’t keep repeating behaviors unless, on some level, we get something good out of them.

These hidden reasons are known as “payoffs,” and they either help you get more of something you want or avoid something you don’t want. Even a negative payoff is a payoff.

In the example above, the person in constant conflict with co-workers could be using the conflict to cover up insecurity with his/her work quality. The conflict, in effect, distracts from scrutiny.

Or, the conflict could stem from uncensored outspokenness. The person may have an oppressive situation at home, and being excessively outspoken at work may allow him/her to feel powerful and self-expressed in at least one arena of life.

Many years ago I held a management position within a Boutique Hotel Group. I often worked 60 hours a week, leaving little energy for my intimate relationship or time to do what made me happy. Ultimately, the relationship ended and all I was left with was work. A few years later that I realized I was overly identified by what I “did” rather than who I was and what my true values were. As soon as the awareness was clear the changes were easy to make and I left that position shortly after. That one decision set me on a path where I now experience balance in work and every area of my life.

Look for (and create) positive patterns.

One of the best ways to disrupt the negative patterns that may be wreaking havoc with your life is to also study the positive patterns in your life. For these can be “grafted” onto your negative patterns with great success. Choose an area of your life that is working well to analyze why that is so. Then, apply the same level of focus to any area that is not thriving to the same degree.

For example, you can utilize the discipline you’ve always had around working out regularly to stop using credit to finance your lifestyle.

When you look at your negative patterns as a gift rather than a curse, you can soften your resistance to looking at them. Bringing humor to a situation can begin to dissolve layers of patterning. Clients often exclaim, “I can’t believe I am dealing with this again after all these years”.

We then laugh and remember change comes in small and big chunks as and when you are ready.

Begin with a pattern that is less charged/intimidating if you like … then, just begin!

Love and Blessings,

The Curvy Line to Success

Have you heard the saying “The shortest distance between two points is a straight line” ?

Of course you have, it is a basic truth.

Over the years, I have pondered the principle of the straight line, hoping that if I found it I would create the career of my dreams; the problem was at the time I had no idea what my dream career would be.  I watched and listened to others as I attempted to find the key to this journey.

I was completely baffled at how anyone could graduate from high school, have their college years all mapped out, already knowing what their major would be; then, on to graduate school while keeping their career goals clearly in mind, following that straight line.

To say my career path did not follow a straight line makes me break out in hysterical laughter. The truth is I have never done anything the conventional way, although I longed for it along the way.  I did not have anyone guiding me to be my unique self, to follow my intuition, or telling me that staying in one career wasn’t the only way to success, so I suffered with the underlying belief that I was doing it wrong.

Over the years, I was highly valued in the many positions that I held, I was always promoted into upper management, made an excellent salary, all the while wondering what could have been if I had been able to find the “straight line.” I was not yet able to value the diversified skill set that I had acquired. I continued to feel that I had not done it “right,” whatever right is.  Yet, in spite of my mental challenges, I began to develop what I saw as my own unique gifts and talents. I felt split in my corporate environment which did not support sharing of intuition, internal guidance, and using attraction but expected striving, nose to the grindstone, and working 70 hours a week. I knew there had to be a better way, now the task was to find it.

I did find a better way, through focusing on my spiritual growth and what made me unique both in business and as a woman.  I began listening to my guidance, taking classes, immersing myself into self-discovery courses along with following visionaries that were sharing the same message.

I left structured employment 12 years ago at a time when many well meaning friends said I was crazy. They told me that I needed to stay a bit longer, save more money, and make sure I was stable. I knew one thing for sure; if I did not make a change I would become very sick. Just as I was pulling together all of my courage to give my notice, a card arrived in the mail, it said, “sometimes the only mode of transportation available is a leap of faith.” That was all I needed to leap! 3 months later I was an entrepreneur doing anything I could to keep the money flowing in and creating a business.

I bet you are not surprised that I did not follow the “straight line.” I did not have a business plan, a marketing plan or, for that matter, even an office. I had not heard of a business coach and did not have the funds to pay one at the time anyway.

By this time in my life, what I did have was a very highly tuned intuition. I was guided to become a Certified Life Coach. Very quickly the practical aspects of coaching were married with the intuitive guidance and my business was formed. Rather than seeking the straight line path I allowed myself to be guided each step of the way through an amazing journey of creation and expansion.

When I did hire my first business coach, I knew immediately I was in the right place. He came from a long line of surgeons. He had followed diligently the “straight line” to success and after 14 years of schooling he had his own plastic surgery practice. A mere 4 years later he was worn out, consumed with debt and very unhappy. He said that the MD on his jacket stood for, “Mostly Disappointed.” After much soul searching, he sold his practice and followed his passion to become a full time business coach, he is now very happy and yes, successful.

I have a skill set that assists me in managing every area of my business that came out of learning customer service at a time when it was highly revered in the Airline Industry, managing 3 separate medical clinics, owning a clothing business, Assistant Manager of a Boutique Hotel and Spa Director for two amazing properties.  I now am the co-founder of What Truly Matters: Living Your Juiciest Life Ever!

Ironically, I realize now that all of my past experience led me to and prepared me for my current business success.  And, as I draw on the years of diverse experience, I am very grateful that I took the “curvy line to success.”

Love and Blessings,

Top 10 Daily Practices of Loving Relationships

February brings us into the month of Love. For many this is a joyful time as Valentine’s

Day approaches, for others it only brings stress. For some the feeling of being alone, not part of a couple rises to the surface, everywhere you look it seems that everyone is coupled. For others the stress comes from feeling they need to create the most romantic over the top event of the year, and what if it is not enough.

I am focusing on love that sustains over the long term and not only romantic love and not only on Valentine’s Day. It would be very hard, if not impossible, to find anyone that has not been touched in recent years by the loss of a loved one, to long term or very sudden illnesses.

Cancer is the #2 cause of death in the United States; in 2013, 1,600 people died of cancer per day. We must begin to cherish the relationships we have in every area of our lives now.

We are experiencing relationships on many levels every day; each one is filled with the opportunity for loving expression. Each relationship is truly a treasure when you slow down enough to look at it with fresh eyes.

Living with those you love—whether they be a spouse, significant other, housemate, children or older parents—brings intimacy and stresses that are different from other relationships.

Here are 10 daily practices that will inspire you to keep the love flowing and the relationships growing.  

  1. Share something from your day. Involve your loved ones in your life outside the home—or inside your heart. Share something that surprised and delighted you.
  2. Express appreciation. Show that you notice their daily contributions to the family and your life. Receiving a “thank you” for doing the dishes or taking out the trash feels soooo good!
  3. Eat dinner together. Connecting with each other over food is an ancient human practice. It’s worth it to make time for this warming activity, while allowing yourself to transition into your evening together.
  4. Do something for yourself. Doing what nourishes you strengthens your relationships. No one can love you more than you love yourself! Taking time for your needs is not selfish it is essential.
  5. Smile. Laughing is even better—especially if it’s at yourself!
  6. Express regret and make up. The sooner the better. And from a truly open heart. Learning to say you are sorry will ease tension and bring all relationships to a higher level.
  7. Take responsibility. Renew daily your vow to hunt out your own “stuff,” to own it as yours, and to do the work of transforming it, end the pattern of “blame”.
  8. Be a sanctuary. Give psychic “shade” to each other from the scorching rays of difficult days, no dumping.
  9. Speak from the heart. Risk telling the truth about your feelings. When you own your feelings a new depth of connection is available.
  10. Envision the best. It’s a wonderful bedtime meditation to visualize your loved ones inhabiting their highest, best selves, bathe them in love

I invite you to begin living and loving consciously. Where can you spread light and love today? Notice what your experience is over the next 30 days as you commit to this practice.

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Love and Blessings,

Choosing To Be Surprised and Delighted

With each new day you see and experience many things all around you, too many to count, really.

From the moment you open your eyes in the morning you are looking at a new canvas, even if you are in the same room you have slept in for years. The light will be different each day based on the seasons and the outside weather. If you are well rested, your vision will be clearer, or a bit foggier if you struggled through the night. The more familiar the surroundings the less you really see. You get locked into what you expect will be there and not really, “see” at all.

Remember a time in your life when you lay on the ground doing nothing but watching the clouds floating by in the sky?  Suddenly, much to your delight, the cloud became an angel, dog, horse, and then gently shifted back into being a cloud once again. When you seize the opportunity to slow down and be with what is all around you, the ability to see is enhanced.

This is also true of seeing the people in your life. How often do we stop and gently take in the presence of the people we intimately share our daily lives with?  It would change how we appreciate each other, seeing each other fresh each day.  The greatest gift you can give another is to really see them, not through the eyes of what you already know and expect, rather with curiosity asking, “Who is this divine being today?“  Go one step further, and share with love what you see; relationships will deepen because of this.

Photo by Adrian MendozaOn New Year’s Eve, I met with a friend from my hometown that I had not seen for at least 40 years. It was easy to meet this man and really see him for who is now, without the imprint of past impressions.  We enjoyed coffee and conversation, reconnecting and finding much in common.

He is a photographer, a camera bouncing off his hip as he walks. On the way back to the car he snapped a photo periodically; I wondered what caught his eye.

My car was in the bank parking lot, one I use often. I noticed he had taken a photo and I glanced in that direction. I saw a wall of brick and wood and was sure he must have taken the shot of something else.  At that moment he said, “Look at this.”  I gasped when I looked at the photo.  It was of the wall I initially looked at, although I had not really seen it at all.  In the photo there was an ornate pattern that was stunning, created by the shadows of the trees nearby. In that moment I realized how much I missed what was right in front of me and began looking at everything differently. I am now seeing the colors, angles, shading and so much more.  A whole new experience has opened up for me from that one special moment.

We are in the initial days of a New Year, 2014 is ahead full of promise. Often, the year’s intentions are strong and compelling in beginning of January.  All too soon the routine takes over and we find ourselves back in the life that we were so determined to change just a few short weeks ago. What if you do it differently this year? Keep bringing yourself back and stay in touch with What Truly Matters to you. The Universe provides opportunities every minute to surprise and delight you if you open your eyes to see. I invite you to begin today, what do you see?


Love and Blessings,

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